RELATIONSHIP MATTERS

 A perfect relationship is just like love , it has different meaning for different individuals.  However, one thing that is evident in any perfect  relationship is that it consists of individuals who invest their time in the welfare of their partner. Such in a perfect relationship, the couples;   *Are committed to each other's  happiness  * Communicate well * Respect each other  *Work through their issues quickly  *Are honest with each other  *Take the time to do things that nurture their love . *Enjoy doing things together  *Are attracted to each other *Make compromises  *Maintain the type of trust required for a healthy relationship.  The attributes of a perfect relationship are never ending and ever - changing,  but one thing that remains constant is that such a relationship can be achieved with a combination of passion , intimacy and commitment.  RELATIONSHIP SKILLS YOU CAN LEARN   Relationships evo...

 Relationship Compatibility is not black or white,  "we love all the same things "! Does not necessarily mean that you and your partner are meant for each other.  On the contrary, happy couples report that they enjoy diversity in their separate hobbies, tastes and professional pursuits.  So when  I say it is important for a couple to be compatible,  what I mean is that they should share several compatible points on the compatibility spectrum.  If you are looking for the best relationship compatibility, here are some things you must consider: *Examine  your past relationship types . *Ask yourself if you are ready to open up to a new relationship  *Identify what you need in your partner in order to form an intimate bond.  *Pay attention to your feelings  *Seek Someone who can meet your emotional needs  *Have reasonable expectations  *Test the relationship out for 90 days .   When the above mentioned points are considere...

 The mistake most ladies make which has kept them single more than expected is because they are looking for the perfect man . Most ladies want men who has everything in life . Back then in school, I overheard some ladies describing the type of men they want to marry , I sat down immediately, trying to figure out this perfect man but couldn't find even one . Then I smiled and said " these ladies are not ready to get married. " These women have descriptions like these : He must be rich with fleet of cars , houses in different places,  he must take me out everyday, we must spend our weekends  Abroad, he must be gentle, he must satisfy me sexually, he must be tall and  very handsome, he must be muscular, he must be bearded, he must be very cute.  He must be dark or fair in complexion , he must never in his life raise his hands to beat me . He must be calm and outspoken, he must always make me smile . The list is endless.  When you see all these , you should kno...

 Domestic violence, abuse, cheating , and inattention in marriages has become so rampant in our today world. It is usually seen on the part of the men. No man In his right mind will marry a woman just to beat her, abuse and cheat on her . These couples once has happy and peaceful marriages, before the sudden change of the man's attitude,  This is why you usually hear these women from abusive marriages saying  " this was not the once peaceful, loving and caring man that I married ". Why don't we look at some reasons behind such change in attitude.  Sometime the man himself may be the reason,  sometimes friends and family of either the man or the woman maybe the reason.  But many at times , the woman herself maybe the reason.  Below are some of the reasons : *When a  woman  doesn't do   something for a living she will always depend on her husband for everything.  She sits at home, folding arms, crossing legs , watching movies, pr...

 * WHAT ARE YOUR FINANCIAL GOALS AND HOW CAN WE TRY TO REACH THEM? First and foremost, you need to talk about money , money can be a major source of relationship stress between couples, so being on the same page early on is crucial.  Asking about financial goals is a lot more positive than saying ,  "How come you never seem to pay your bills on time but splurge on delivery three nights a week? ". *HOW CAN I HELP YOU WHEN YOU ARE STRESSED?  One of the best things you can do for your partner is to learn how to help them when they are down, some people need reassurance ,  others need space , others need a pep talk. Everyone is different, but when they are actually stressed and struggling,  we may not be able to communicate these needs fully.  Establishing what you need in advance means you and your partner are able to help  each other and cope with stress as it arises. *DO YOU WANT CHILDREN AND WHAT WOULD WE DO IF WE STRUGGLE TO GET PREGNANT?  Y...

 THEY ACCEPT YOU AS YOU ARE A strong indicator that a woman loves you is if she accepts you the way you are.  Both your strengths and weaknesses.  She knows that you are not perfect,  no one is and she understands that you make mistakes.  Loving you means she can try and help you grow as a person while forgiving your imperfections.  THEY TRY TO GET CLOSER TO YOUR LOVED ONES  A woman who loves you always show respect for the people you care about  because she knows they are important to you.  Being accepted by your loved ones is something she strives for,  she will do her best to act accordingly around them and treasure their happiness as you do. THEY ARE  VULNERABLE WITH YOU  Spending time together and having conversations about things that make you vulnerable helps to create a strong bond and vulnerability to feel different for everyone.  Some topics that makes a woman feel vulnerable differ from that of a man. Whether it...