FACTORS THAT TENDS TO AFFECT RELATIONSHIPS

Low Self Esteem; This is mostly common in women ,this happens when a woman does not know her worth as a woman, she feels the man is doing her good by dating her, she can't disagree with her boyfriend on some issues, even when it affects her so badly, she can't make her own decisions and stand by it, she is like a wheelbarrow that is pushed wherever the owner wants it to go, she is scared of losing the man, she feels her whole life depend solely on her man, she has lost her worth as a woman, as a woman she does a lot for the man and even when not appreciated she still feel okay with it, she looks down on herself which makes her man treat her with so much disregard , She goes with the African mentality that " A woman's place is in the kitchen " . when ever she visits her boyfriends she will be playing the role of a wife when he hasn't paid 1 kobo on her head. I don't mean that a woman shouldn't help her boyfriend but there should be a limit. most times, men dump some women with such low self esteem and people wonder why he dumped her after all she did for him. no man will want want to marry a woman with such low self esteem and can't make a good wife but a puppet to the man. Being Too Domineering /Bossy; Domineering means trying to control other people without considering their opinions or feelings. this is common with men, when a man doesn't seek the consent of his girlfriend or consider how she will feel or react before doing something, some men take advantage of the fact that they are quite older than their women or because she is the quiet and calm type. Men can be domineering when it has to do with sex, they don't care if the woman is in the mood or she is in her period , all they want is sex, they can also be domineering when it has to do with helping the woman, they will feel like they have the right to decide whether to help or not to, especially in the financial aspect. this act of domineering in men hurts the women's feeling and reduces their love and respect for their men. women are very emotional, they value little things in relationships even things that doesn't matter to the men matters a lot to the women. they value the word "I love you " they value a peck on the forehead, a hug, a smile, a little parcel of gift and attention. most men over look these little things, to overlook these little things, can make a woman wake up one day and end the relationship, because what she ever wanted and cherish in the relationship is not what is being given to her. Being Too Demanding; This means expecting a lot of work or attention from the others, not easily satisfied. this is seen in both men and women. A man or woman that is very demanding finds it very difficult to build a lasting relationship, there are people that can never be pleased with whatever their partner do for them. Sometimes, women who are dating very demanding men try to continue with the relationship with the notion that he is the man and the head, I beg you to take your leave, people who are very demanding are never grateful, some women will want a lot of things from their men even when they know that their men are not financially capable, some will threaten to end the relationship if their needs are not met, and this leads to the men into some evil acts that can cause them a lot of problem. when you see a person that is very demanding, no amount of love can keep him or her , the best thing is to walk away from the relationship.