PEACE ; THE WHEEL THAT DRIVES LOVE IN RELATIONSHIPS

    Peace is the absence of conflict, war or trouble.

It is a state of calmness. 

For a relationship to be peaceful,  love should not be asked for by either of the couple, rather it should be given freely and abundantly,  in fact it should be a way of life. 

  These two words " Peace and love" goes hand in hand for a great and splendid relationship. 

  A man cannot be in love with a woman he is not at peace with.

Love cannot flow freely, if there is no peace in a relationship or marriage. 

  When you are at peace with someone,  you can't force yourself to love the person. 

Love will become part of you.

That is the problem in almost every area of life, in families, institutions, organizations of different kinds e . t.  c.

We find it difficult to love our neighbours because we are never at peace with them, even when we claim to be, we are always battling with one wrong he or she has done to us.

But when we let go, we will find ourselves loving the person and everything will be fine.

  I usually wonder why some people are not always lucky with relationships and marriages. 

I have carried out a research and found out that;

* Most people are not even at peace with themselves,  so how can they be at peace with other people? 

This goes  a long way to affect their love lives and relationships. 

These people take everything in life very serious, they are very anxious, they can't have a moment of joy, fun and games. 

They are workaholics, they don't give themselves time to rest and have some free time with family and friends. 

They feel they will die of hunger or thirst if a single day is devoted to fun.

People who are like this, are never at peace  with themselves and this affects their relationships. 

* Some people read meaning into  everything that happens around them.

These people also find it difficult to live in peace. 

They see little things as very mighty,  they don't allow their partners have  some fresh breeze.

When they see their partners with the opposite sex, either talking and laughing,  they will conclude that theit partners are having an affair. 

When their partners smile at an opposite sex, they will complain, when their partners receives a phone call from an opposite sex they will complain too.

Everything is always a big deal for them.

 * Others love for the benefits they will derive from their partners.

These people don't always have peace when those benefits are not forth coming.

For instance, some men will fall in love with a very beautiful woman , who is busty and also have enough  back side,  because they want sex from her. 

While some women fall in love with a  wealthy and handsome looking man because they want his money.

When eventually, these benefits seems not to be forthcoming they become restless and may even be involving in a fight with their partners .

Peace is the wheel that drives love in any relationship. 

In oder to have this peace , you should do the following :

(1 ) Always take a deep breath when things seems to be tossing around,  please don't kill yourself,  life should be taken piece by piece.

(2) Remember your moments of joy, even if it's a moment,  that alone can create a lasting peace.

(3) Grab every single opportunity to be happy and joyous,  with both hands. Make it a very memorable one.

(4) Finally, remember the God of peace, He will give you an inner peace.

 With these, you can have peace and you will   love with all your heart.