MANAGING EXPECTATIONS IN RELATIONSHIPS

    Love is an action word, it is more of a 

A doing, it is not passive, that is  why when

Two opposite sex come to  Love themselves,

They bring passion, care and attention to it.

But when love is not  properly managed,  

Both parties tend to  misunderstand issues 

And this leads to a clash.

  

  When you love someone,  you will  try to 

Convince yourself that the person is   perfect

When one one is, We as humans , makes

Mistakes on daily basis, we have our 

Weaknesses .

  People who are in relationships  need to

 know this, when they recognize that 

That sometimes people are fallible,  they will

Not put pressure on their partners and 

This will help build their relationships

   We don't have to see our partners as super 

Humans and infallible beings, this is more 

Common with the ladies. 

   Ladies, When in relationship, see their 

Men as some kind of magicians, who can

Make things happen at the flick of their 

Fingers.  They see their men as small gods 

Who have solutions to every problem. 

   They expect so much from the men and 

When this expectations are not met, they

Feel disappointed and issues may arise 

Which can bring an end to the relationship. 

  So much expectations from the ladies,

Makes them so dependent on the men.

They will demand for money for almost 

Everything  at every point in time. 

They become so lazy that they can't work, 

But depend on their men for their daily 

Bread, especially if the man has a good 

Job.

This is very wrong,  women who do this 

Have to stop it.

Because this can crash the relationship,  a 

Reasonable man will refer  to her as a " liability " .  " I cannot marry a liability ".

This is mostly the words of many men.

women should not depend solely on their 

men for everything,  they should work and

Make themselves useful and earn respect 

From men.

Most women have nothing to offer in a 

relationship other than their bodies. 

They should engage themselves and 

Make the society,  family and nation proud

Of them.

 On the part of the men, They should not see 

Themselves as some kind of gods and expect 

Their women to always kneel and bow 

Before them, they should expect something 

More than that from a woman. 

This expectations from men has resulted to

A lot of broken relationships and even 

Marriages. 

They should know that women are not 

Meant to serve them, they should also be 

Treated with a lot of respect.

In this modern world,  women don't like 

To be commanded and ordered around  by 

Men. 

   In order to avoid so much expectations in relationships,     

* The couple must not be pretensious,  they 

Should not try to be 

Who they are not,  the man  should not  

Pretend to be a very rich man, when he 

Knows he is just an average man.

* The woman must not deceive the man into 

Believing she is an angel,  by using a lot of 

Artificial stuffs like artificial hair, eye lashes,  

bleaching cream , artificial breasts and 

Buttocks  on themselselves and by trying to 

 Present themselves as very good 

Housewives,  and hiding their true selves

Generally,  the couple must be open to each  

other in every aspects of their life. 

If any of the couple has a particular sickness 

That he or she is suffering from,  their 

Partners Should know about it,  they must 

Not hide it from their partner. 

When they know almost every thing about 

Each other,  there won't be much 

Expectations from either partner. 

This will help  build the relationship into 

a wonderful marriage.