WHAT ARE MY REASONS FOR SAYING " I DO"

    Many  women  are usually attracted to

Beautiful and designers wedding gowns, they see at weddings. 

While some are seeing their friends and age mates getting married and they want to get married too.

Marriage is not about beautiful wedding gowns, golden shoes and jewellries. 

A lot of women are always carried away by these fancy things about marriage without sitting down to think about their reasons for saying  "I do".

That a woman is beautiful and have all it takes to get married does not guarantee a marriage made in heaven,  or that  she fast and pray everyday does not guarantee a beautiful and happy home.

There is more to that.

Every woman ought to know her reasons for saying "I do".

Am I saying " I do " because the man is handsome and wealthy?  These things will fade away one day .

Am I saying " I do " because I have gotten to a marriage able age?  

Getting to a marriage able age does not guarantee a peaceful marriages. 

It takes a matured mind to build a home. 

You can be 40 but still you can't manage a home, you don't have what it takes to put a home in order. 

While a young woman in her 20s can take full responsibility as a wife and a mother.

If you can't build a home then you have no reason  to say "I do " to any man.

Every woman must know the following before saying "I do " to any man.

* You should ask yourself, am I ready to be a mother? 

  Being a mother is not all about giving birth to a child but being able to care for the child right from the day he or she was conceived in your womb.

Throughout the pregnancy period,  during and after birth, from cradle to kindergarten, to primary,  secondary and tertiary level.

During these period of the child''s life ,  you are going to remain a good mother, nurturing, instructing,  training, listening to him or her and advising him or her. 

There will be no time to quit or go for a break, it is going to be a life long journey   with the child, you will be ready to endure and accept insults,  sufferings,  pains and other forms of ingratitude from your child. 

*Ask yourself,  am I ready to be a good wife?

   Being a good wife doesn't end at bearing the title  " Mrs" ,  cooking for your husband,  washing his clothes, having sex with him,  bearing children for him and so on.

  These are what we see in almost every marriage and that is all every woman thinks she has to do as a wife.

  A resounding round of applause will always go to a woman who does all these. 

  But these are not all that is required of a good wife.

Taking us back to the beginning,  God created the woman as a help mate .

This means that a wife should always be ready to support her husband,  spiritually,  physically,  psychologically, financially and otherwise. 

She should always be ready to go on her knees to pray for her husband. 

  She should be supportive in all aspects of life, she can build her husband in his occupation .

There are some women who knows nothing about what their husbands do for a living. 

  A good wife  should at least  know little or more about her husband's  occupation. 

With her little knowledge of his occupation,  she can advise him, give him ideas on how to go about his business and gain more grounds.

And for those with white collar jobs,  she can advise him and give him suggestions on what and what to do to get promotions .

If a woman is not ready to do this then she has no reason to say "I do " to any man.

* A woman should also be ready to endure pains , sufferings  and other forms of ingratitude from her husband. 

Don't say he loves me and will never hurt me, he is a human being and will  step on your toes one day.

It takes a matured, patient and understanding woman to be a good wife. 

At times,  a woman may face rejections and persecutions from  her husband's family. 

Will you be strong enough to endure or will you allow the rejections and persecutions take the best part of you?

An answer to this question will determine whether you are ready to say "I do " or not. 

This is what a woman have to think about and digest very well before saying "I do " to any man.