SOME QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR PARTNER BEFORE MARRIAGE

 * WHAT ARE YOUR FINANCIAL GOALS AND HOW CAN WE TRY TO REACH THEM?

First and foremost, you need to talk about money , money can be a major source of relationship stress between couples, so being on the same page early on is crucial. 

Asking about financial goals is a lot more positive than saying ,  "How come you never seem to pay your bills on time but splurge on delivery three nights a week? ".


*HOW CAN I HELP YOU WHEN YOU ARE STRESSED? 

One of the best things you can do for your partner is to learn how to help them when they are down, some people need reassurance ,  others need space , others need a pep talk.

Everyone is different, but when they are actually stressed and struggling,  we may not be able to communicate these needs fully. 

Establishing what you need in advance means you and your partner are able to help  each other and cope with stress as it arises.


*DO YOU WANT CHILDREN AND WHAT WOULD WE DO IF WE STRUGGLE TO GET PREGNANT? 

You'd assume that everyone would touch Base about children before they get married.  But sometimes it doesn't happen. 

While  you should definitely discuss whether or not you both want them , you also should have a broader conversation. 

Struggling to get pregnant can be devastating in a relationship and it's not the time you want to realise that one of you wants children while the other does not. 

*WHAT ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS AROUND CHILDCARE AND PARENTING?

If you are both set on wanting kids and how many , great! The next question to ask is how to raise them.


I suggest asking the following :

 "If we have children, what are your  expectations around childcare and parenting?  Do you have any gender expectations?  Are you a feminist?  Which is your ideal situation, do we both work and take care of the kids? Would you want to stay at home or would you want me to stay at home and care for the kids ?


These are some questions that you should ask your partner before marriage to avoid misunderstanding within one or two years into the marriage. 

I pray for a good,   blessed and happy   marriage to  you all 


Amen !


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